Tag Archives: Relationships

Domestic Bliss & Bloodshed

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Two weeks ago, G had an operation on his back. He slipped a disc last March and finally the date arrived to get it sorted. This of course is wonderful, but it does mean that he a) cannot drive for 6 weeks, b) cannot work for 6- possibly 8 because he’s a chef and his work is very physical- weeks, and c) because of a & b, he’s living with me while he’s off. This is a huge adjustment for us. G works five days a week, leaving at 9am and usually arriving home around midnight as the restaurant is a 45 minute drive from my house. So although I’m now in … Continue reading →

My Best Friend

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Last night I was talking to my best friend and I realised something. It came after a fairly serious conversation. We’d been talking about the operation he needs on his back, how it’ll mean he can’t drive for 4 weeks, how his pay is going to be effected as he’ll need to take some time off. What we’ll do while he can’t drive (I can’t drive full stop and his house is really far away & nowhere near a train station) Our future, when we want to move in together, have another baby.That stuff. We talked as we do, about Chops and his relationship with her. We’ve talked about the … Continue reading →

Trust

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Trust. A loaded gun in the English language if ever there was one. Sure, we know what it means. But what it means to me and what it means to you or our partners, or either of our best friends could be two, or three, or four dozen very different things. I’ll give you an example. My best friend got married this year, she has been with her husband for about four years. About a month before the wedding, she was in the car with him (he was driving) and their daughter and he asked her to send a text to his brother letting him know they were on the … Continue reading →

Four

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Babies. I’m obsessed with them at the moment. I’ve met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, he feels the same about me. And so… “Procreate, procreate, procreate!” screams my uterus. I have never experienced ‘being broody’ before. Chops was born out of a very different relationship under very different circumstances. I was only 23 then not very young granted, but younger than I saw myself when I looked into the crystal ball of my future. I’m almost 27 now and my little girl is two and a half. Not a massive different in numbers but a complete transformation in all other manners. Although I’m also … Continue reading →

Image

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Before I start. I’m sorry. Sometimes, I look in the mirror and I hate what I see. Not in a pouty, girl posing and saying it for attention way. Really. Before I get my hair sorted and I layer on my make up, when my hair is all matted and frizzy and generally awful and I’ve got pores you could fall into, huge bags under my eyes, and I’m all pasty and grey looking, when I look at myself- my actual self, not the self I spend making myself look like before I go out, it makes me feel horrible. Over the summer, I lost 10lbs and felt great. But … Continue reading →

Nope, no extra crazy here today thank you!

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So, today has been an official pyjama day in the house of myself & Chops. I have done no housework, no proper stuff, not even got dressed- either of us! We have just chilled out in our pyjamas and do you know what, it was exactly what we needed. We haven’t had any days where we just do nothing together without anyone or anything else interrupting us in ages and sometimes it good to just be together without any extras. And then along comes an ex boyfriend and pisses all over my chips. Here’s the story. When I was 21, I spent half of my 2nd year at uni living in Wagga … Continue reading →

Houdini

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In the period of time between my last relationship & G coming into my life, I ventured out into the terrifying world of dating. Not just dating either. Online dating. Having worked out ok for me once (that’s how I’d met my ex), I had faith in the experiment which it turned out was not quite as sceptical as it could/should have been. I went into the whole thing too quickly to be honest, my heart and ego were still badly bruised from how it had all ended with D and I was in a “I’ll show him!” frame of mind. Believing, tragically and naively that finding someone who wanted me, in whatever respect, would make … Continue reading →

The Honeymoon Period

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So at risk of boring you all to tears with reference to this new found love of mine (be warned, I’m just getting started), a conversation about G and myself got me thinking tonight about the so called “Honeymoon Phase”. Now I met G around April and we’ve been something of a fairly serious ‘thing’ since sometime around June. Now I know all those of you who have been together or even married and have children and mortgages may be scoffing at me “Serious? Three months and you’re calling it serious?!”. Well, yes actually I am. But that in itself is just my point. Already at this stage in the game, many a … Continue reading →

Croissants

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Some of you might know… Or, who knows, care even, that a great big part of things getting a whole lot better round here has to do with my new boyfriend. I say new, he’s not really new anymore but I wasn’t with him the last time I blogged. I just want to take a moment to celebrate his general awesome-ness by showing you these: Fresh, home made (he’s a chef) croissants that this particular man, who works 70 + hours a week, set his alarm to make sure he got up before Chops, snuck downstairs while I was sleeping in her bed and baked for me, along with homemade … Continue reading →